The One Feminine Practice That Ends Situationships for Good
Discover why tending to your creative energy—not your dating profile—is the secret to attracting lasting love and breaking free from cycles of ghosting, confusion, and almost-relationships.
As a relationship coach for smart, successful, beautiful women from every kind of background imaginable, I see common themes.
The women I work with want to get married - they aren’t into exploring pointless dating and random boyfriends for more years. But they are usually stuck in a few patterns they don’t even know they were taught, and the first steps in coaching is to unlearn those.
So I want to share some of that today - the real reasons why smart, successful women stay stuck in the girlfriend zone year after year, man after man.
Turning Death Into Life: The Feminine Magic
In my garden, death isn’t an ending. Fallen leaves become soil. Compost scraps become rich earth. Mother Earth’s cycle of life continues forever.
This is feminine alchemy: the ability to turn endings into beginnings, pain into wisdom, heartbreak into fuel.
Women know this in our bodies. We bleed without dying. We create life from nothing.
Dating culture teaches the opposite. It treats endings like failures, encourages disposal over transformation. Every unmatched profile or ghosted text is framed as loss, when it could be nourishment.
The woman who understands this doesn’t just survive heartbreak—she metabolizes it. She takes what was painful and makes it useful. She composts what others discard.
Centering in Creation Energy
Let me tell you about a woman who got engaged seven months in. No formulas. No tricks. She didn’t chase love. She planted something instead. And what bloomed from it changed everything.
She didn’t use gardening as a clever way to meet men. She redirected her energy entirely. She planted seeds. She took up hobbies that kept her rooted in her own rhythm. In nurturing life, she reconnected with her feminine center.
Women are taught that creative practices are side projects—something you do when you have time. But for us, creation isn’t a hobby. It’s how we stay connected to our power.
The woman who bakes bread, writes poems, arranges flowers isn’t passing time. She’s practicing the muscle of life-giving. She’s grounded in an energy that cannot be fabricated through dating profiles or pickup strategies. She radiates something real.
Dating culture wants your energy to be confused.
To be directed toward a goal.
How to get a man, keep a man, make him commit. Blah blah blah.
But that flips the order of things.
Feminine energy isn’t for chasing men. It’s for creating life. And it’s precisely that energy, that magnetic creative, that draws the right man in.
Men and the Mystery of Life
There’s something no one tells you about men: they are simultaneously drawn to and terrified by the mystery of life.
It might sound poetic, but it’s painfully real. A truth that plays out again and again in modern love. Men are wired to win, to achieve. But feminine energy doesn’t function like a goal. It’s not something to win. It’s something to witness.
I thought about all the women I know who’ve forgotten what they’re for. Who poured their creative power into being chosen. Who chased love instead of generating life.
But the ones who got wifed didn’t focus on the man at all.
Not at first.
So the secret that no dating coach will tell you is:
Start something small. Something that grows. A tomato plant. A loaf of bread. A poem no one else reads. Let it change your relationship to time, to waiting, to desire. Let it remind you that your power has never depended on being chosen.
You don’t just experience life. You generate it.
When you center yourself in creation and not strategy, not scarcity, you stop asking, “How do I get him to commit?” and start asking, “What am I here to create?”
My love, that changes everything.
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Ready to Take This Even Further?
Now that you understand how powerful your creative energy is—and why centering yourself in it shifts your entire dating life—something else becomes clear:
It’s not just about who you are anymore.
It’s about who you give access to.
The moment you stop chasing and start radiating, a new wave of attention comes your way. But here’s the catch: not every man who notices you deserves your time.
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